Concert celebrating the 50th anniversary of the Summer of Love
Sara Davidson is the New York Times best-selling author of Loose Change, Leap! and Joan: Forty Years of Love, Loss and Friendship with Joan Didion.
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What happens when a new technology is so disruptive that secrets long buried are unearthed, creating havoc and, in some cases, wonder?
Back in the 80’s, before we had internet or mobile phones, I created a TV series on ABC called HeartBeat, about a group of women ob-gyns. At that time, there were few women doctors delivering babies, and the show was based on the first all-female group of ob-gyns in Los Angeles.
Kate Mulgrew and Actresses in HeartBeat
After hanging around their office for months, I wrote an episode about an orthodox Jewish couple having fertility problems. The doctor asks if they would consider using a sperm donor. The couple recoil, especially the husband. But the doctor says she’ll mix sperm from the donor with the husband’s sperm, so “only God will know who the father is.”
The husband repeats, “Only God will know.” Then, slowly, he nods.
A great number of children were born from this method, from the 1950s on, and the donor, usually a student who needed money, was promised anonymity. But today, with DNA testing widely available, it’s not only God who knows. There are websites and support groups for Donor Conceived People (DCP), like the Donor Sibling Registry, which can often help people find their bio dads. The dads, who donated decades ago, may discover they have as many as 30 offspring. Wild? Hard to grasp? A California painter has met 18 of his kids so far.
